When The Meaning of Care Proves Stronger Than Addiction
High school sweethearts Kira Luxon and Jason Combes have dated for 11 years, but they’ve been through more than many couples might experience in a lifetime.
After overcoming the challenges of a long-distance relationship and the heartbreak of losing a very dear friend in college, the couple survived alcohol addiction – something that nearly ended their relationship and Jason’s life.
The start of a downward spiral
When Jason turned 21, he did what many do at that age. He celebrated with a drink. In his case, a couple.
It was the first time he tried Fireball Cinnamon Whisky. He was hooked. And he began buying 50 milliliter bottles of the distilled beverage regularly.
“I was a lightweight back then,” he said unapologetically. “It didn’t take a lot of those shooters to get me drunk.”
Right around this time, Jason suffered an elbow injury, which ended his college baseball career. If he didn't have a reason to drink before, he certainly did now, he thought. The sport served as his coping mechanism for many of life's hiccups. Since he could no longer turn to baseball, he turned to Fireball.
What started with a few "shooters" every other day, quickly turned into a few of them every day after work. The amount he drank daily steadily grew. He attempted rehab but relapsed. His relationship with Kira was disintegrating.
“It had gotten really bad,” Kira said. “I had gone to counseling, and all the research I had done pointed to him having end-stage alcoholism. I just decided that I had done everything I could to try and help him. I needed to get out of the situation. Not because I didn’t love him. I just couldn’t do that to myself anymore.”
One night in February 2018, Jason woke up to stomach pain. He ignored it and went back to sleep until the pain became too great the next morning. That’s when Kira drove Jason to see his doctor, who advised the couple to go to the hospital.
Jason’s initial diagnosis? Pancreatitis. But that was only the beginning of what kept him in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) at Methodist Hospital for nearly three months. To name a few of his health complications, Jason experienced kidney failure, liver failure and respiratory failure.
“We were told two or three weeks into his stay that someone with one of his five serious conditions would have a slim chance of survival,” Kira said.
Despite all the procedures, intubation, mechanical ventilation, seizures, hallucinations and the unbearable pain Jason thought would eventually kill him, Kira rarely left his side.
“I needed to make sure he was going to be OK,” she explained. “I loved him.”
Making a connection with Methodist nurses
When Kira wasn’t able to be at be at the hospital, a very special nurse stepped in. Sarah Cherubin, BSN, RN, had been a Methodist ICU nurse for two years prior to meeting Jason.
“She’d sit there the entire night with me, trying to wean me off sedation,” Jason said. “She’d hold my hand or rub my head, and she’d talk me through it – just did whatever she could to keep me calm.”
“I believe a little TLC can be more powerful than medication, sometimes,” Cherubin said. “People see us running around, charting and hanging meds all the time. But I can hold your hand if you’re scared, and I can rub your back if it hurts. That’s what Jason needed. He needed someone to sit by his bedside and remind him what he was fighting for. Remind him why we were doing all of this.”
“I learned a lot from her and all the other nurses in a very short amount of time,” Kira said.
Not only was Kira fascinated by their vast knowledge of her boyfriend’s condition, but she was also moved by their genuine care and compassion. Never once did she feel that she and Jason were being judged or looked down upon. The wheels in her head started turning.
Kira has a degree in interior design and liked where she worked, but “I always had this feeling of, ‘I’m not really helping people or making a difference in anybody’s life.’” She couldn’t help but start to feel drawn to the idea of a career in nursing.
“Every day something would happen that served as a sign,” she said. “One day the nurses would tell me, ‘You ask really good questions.’ The next day I would notice how much they enjoyed seeing Jason improve. It all seemed to be a sign, like ‘Yeah, this is what you should do.’”
She’s a firm believer that had she not stayed with Jason, she may have never pursued this kind of a calling.
And while Jason credits his team at Methodist for saving his life, he’s not so sure he would have made it without Kira.
“Divine intervention, I guess,” Jason said. “She could have left me. She should have. But she gave me a reason to live. I’m the luckiest guy in the world.”
Nearly one year to the day that Jason was admitted to Methodist, he and Kira made their way back to the ICU to thank all of their nurses for their excellent care.
None of them could believe how good Jason looked, and nearly each of them shed tears as they hugged him.
“It felt great,” Jason said. “Just to see how much they still care about me. They performed many miracles on me, and I hope they know that.”
Jason will be the first to admit that recovery hasn’t been easy.
“There are days I hate it, because I’m in so much pain,” he said. “Or days I can’t stand. Or days I’m really hungry for something and end up throwing it all up. Yeah, there are days it really sucks, but obviously anything is better than being six feet under.”
His message to others battling alcohol addiction?
“Imagine your mom crying because she doesn’t know if you’re going to make it. Imagine your girlfriend or wife crying because your drinking finally landed you in the hospital. Wake up! Before it’s too late. I found Jesus, but I also had Kira and my team at Methodist. So find something to believe in. And find the people who love you and legitimately care.”
Grateful for a second chance at life, Jason is excited to pursue the plans God has for him. And Kira, too, is excited to pursue hers.